Gottman Method Couples Therapy
Research-Based Tools to Strengthen Relationships and Rebuild Connection
Available at Pillars of Wellness: In-person and Telehealth (Indiana-wide)
What Is the Gottman Method?
Gottman Method Couples Therapy is an evidence-based approach that helps couples increase connection, improve communication, and navigate conflict. Developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, this model draws from over 40 years of research on what makes relationships succeed—or fail.
The goal of Gottman Therapy is not just to resolve surface-level issues but to rebuild the emotional foundation of a relationship through practical tools and a deeper understanding of one another.
Why Choose the Gottman Method?
The Gottman Method is highly structured and effective for couples who want to:
✅ Learn tools for managing conflict in a healthy way
✅ Rebuild trust and connection
✅ Increase appreciation, intimacy, and shared meaning
✅ Understand the root of their recurring disagreements
Who Can Benefit from the Gottman Method?
Gottman therapy is ideal for:
- Couples in long-term or high-conflict relationships
- Partners who feel stuck in communication patterns
- Those navigating infidelity, life transitions, or parenting challenges
- Engaged or newlywed couples who want a strong foundation
Key Concepts of the Gottman Method
💬 The Sound Relationship House Theory
Healthy relationships are built on a strong “house” of trust and commitment. This framework helps partners:
- Build love maps (understand each other’s inner worlds)
- Share fondness and admiration
- Turn toward instead of away during stress
- Manage conflict and repair after disagreements
- Create shared meaning and rituals
🚩 The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
The Gottmans identified four major relationship killers:
- Criticism
- Defensiveness
- Stonewalling
- Contempt
Your therapist will help you recognize and replace these patterns with healthy alternatives.
What to Expect in Sessions
- A structured assessment process (individual and joint sessions)
- Targeted exercises to build communication, conflict management, and empathy
- Progress tracking with clear goals and feedback
- Tools to use between sessions for long-term improvement
Getting Started
📞 To schedule your first session or learn more about our couples and premarital services, contact our administrative team. Whether you come in together—or one of you starts first—we’re here to help you take that next step toward a better relationship.