Fathers Day

BY: Nicole lembo, LMHC

Fathers Day:

It can be an exciting day for new dads, a challenging one for those mourning a loss, or a frustrating reminder for those carrying unresolved traumas. However this Father’s Day feels for you, know that your experience is valid – we see you. 

Fathers and father figures carry a weight that may not be seen or spoken about enough. Pressures of being a provider, working long hours, identity challenges of being a full-time father, among  other silent battles. We take a moment to reflect on the father figures in our life to show appreciation and care for those who make endless sacrifices for their families, while opening the conversation to support and uplift them.

From an adult child’s perspective, a ‘father wound’ can manifest in many forms — from death or estrangement, to unresolved trauma or abandonment. All of which can make days like father’s day a tough experience. We encourage you to grow aware of your thoughts and feelings, honor yourself in a compassionate way, as well as spending time with those you feel seen and supported by. You deserve to offer yourself compassion and grace. Healing comes in waves — honor your process when you’re ready.

Compassionate ways to show support: 

For yourself:

• Identify your emotions
• Engage in physical movement or exercise
• Call a trusted friend or loved one
• Open up to your spouse or partner
• Set and honor healthy boundaries
• Learn about healthy relationship dynamics
• Be patient with your healing process

For a loved one:

• Gently check in
• If appropriate, express what you’re noticing
• Offer compassion and care without fixing
• Remind them they’re not alone
• Ask how you can support them today